Relating Together
Constructive Conflict resolution
Reacting, (speaking without making a
conscious decision about what you want to say) is quite an obstacle
to constructive conflict resolution. On the other hand, Being
curious invites you to be present in the moment. It is difficult to
be curious and angry or defensive at the same time
Tips about arguing
- If you are arguing to win you both loose
- Be curious about each other.
- Arguments are often a struggle to gain
reassurance. In an argument, someone usually wants reassurance
about something
The challenge: How to express feelings and boundaries together in
a way that meet both of your needs and desires and in a cooperative
way.
Conflict is an important ingredient in relationships. You can not
avoid it. It's here to stay so you might as well find a way to have
it work for you. Conflict with resolution is what long term
relationships have in common.
Remember Way to Cooperation:
No Scarcity-Equal Rights-No Secrets-
No Power Plays-No Rescues
Remember the Principles of Prosperity:
Celebration-Mutuality-Community-Focus-Give Away
Steps for Fair Fighting: Constructive Conflict Resolution
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