Relating Together
Constructive Conflict resolution
State the Problem STEP NUMBER 3
Partner's Response STEP NUMBER 7
Partner - pause, wait a few seconds. Take an emotional inventory.
Now that you have all the information from your partner go to the
first step for yourself.
Warm-up. Go through all the questions for yourself. It is
important to honor your partner's need to proceed unless for some
reason you are overwhelmed with the topic or your own issues. In
that case requesting professional help as a couple may be advised.
Setting the Time. If you need more time agree on a specific
time/date to continue the conflict.
Follow steps number 3 through 6 honoring and expressing your
own thoughts, feelings, wants and needs. Take a deep breath. Trust
your partner's intent and your own.
Negotiating STEP NUMBER 8
If this sounds like a rather cold word or concept for a loving
relationship remind yourself you are building a history of success
and resolution with your partner that will allow conflict to flow
more naturally and feel less threatening. Not necessarily less
feelings but with more trust and less fear.
Continue this process going back and forth, each time
responding to your partners problem, feelings, solution, and
consequences while addressing your own.
Disagree on the solution
Go to step number 3
Counter-proposal
Go to step number 5
Request for more time or information
Go to step number 2
We agree on solution.
Go to step number 10
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